Emotional Abuse
One of the most damaging forms of abuse is emotional abuse. Unlike other forms of abuse, emotional abuse leaves invisible scars that can only be lessened through time and counseling. Emotional abuse can take many forms, which makes it difficult to identify, and even harder to resolve. If you are uncertain of whether or not you are being abused, you can refer to the general guidelines below.
1: Do you feel uncomfortable around your partner?
Discomfort is your instinct that something is not right with the relationship. It is your gut-feeling, and should not be ignored. This is a serious red flag for a relationship.
2: Do you feel worthless?
If your partner makes comments that make you feel worthless, this is a sign of emotional abuse. Arguments happen now and then, and people do say what they do not mean. However, if it happens frequently, it is a sign of abuse.
3: Do you have low self-esteem?
There are many links to abuse and self-esteem. If you have a low self-esteem, you are at a higher risk of being abused than someone who has a high self-esteem. Low self-esteem can be triggered through emotional abuse, but it can also be a sign that you are at risk of being abused. People with low self-esteem rarely combat emotional abuse, and often make themselves more of a target than those with higher self-esteem.
4: Is your partner extremely jealous?
Jealousy is often a root of all types of abuses, whether it is emotional or physical. A jealous partner typically tries to control everything they can. This controlling behavior can easily evolve into abuse.
5: Does your partner control your life?
Financial control, as well as control of your social activities, is a dangerous form of emotional abuse. Someone who suffers from this form of abuse will often feel helpless. This helplessness makes it seem impossible to escape the relationship.
If you feel that you are a victim of emotional abuse, there are hot lines, support groups and resources available that can help you escape and recover from the abuse. While it takes a great deal of courage to deal with an abuse situation, it is important that you take action before emotional abuse evolves into physical abuse.
If you know someone who is being emotionally abused, it is important that you support the person and get the information you need to help them cope. If you can safely assist them in getting out of the situation, make your offer known to them if they seem like they want a way out. However, be cautious about getting in between the partners, as an abusive partner can quickly turn violent if they feel threatened.